I _____, take you ______, to be my wedded wife/husband. To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness or in health, to love and to cherish ’till death do us part. And hereto I pledge you my faithfulness.
Pat Robertson, Christian televangelist, would like to change these traditional wedding vows. Apparently, according to Christianity Today, he would like to add “or until one of us gets Alzheimers and it becomes hard to be alone or to take care of you.
While I’m no fan of Pat Robertson, I had never expected to hear this come out of his mouth. Well, that isn’t exactly how he said it. A caller called into his show and asked how she should talk to her friend who was dating another woman because of his wife’s advanced Alzheimers. Pat’s answer was that he “would not fault anyone for doing this.” Apparently, advanced Alzheimers makes someone no longer the person they used to be, which I would agree with. And, Robertson believes this is equivalent to death, and is a fitting ending for the vows that were pledged. Not death, but like death, it seems.
Clearly, I don’t agree with him, and I find it hard to believe that he agrees with himself. Yes, it would be incredibly difficult to watch a loved one suffer and lose their life to Alzheimers. But, marriage is a picture of Christ and his Bride, the Church. Christian men are told to emulate Christ, not to abandon their wives at their darkest hour.
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
– Ephesians 5:22-33
Pat, please, please, take it back and apologize. Even the nonbelievers are saying that your beliefs on this are atrocious. Repent.